HAVOCA – Help for Adult Victims Of Child Abuse
HAVOCA is run by survivors for adult survivors of child abuse. We provide support, friendship and advice for any adult whose life has been affected by childhood abuse.
If this is the first time you have visited this site please feel free to browse around and explore our hundreds of useful pages about the road to recovery. HAVOCA’s ethos believes that every single child abuse victim has the ability to survive and lead a more fulfilling life.
Every Survivor has the right to become a Thriver.
HAVOCA was established in 2001 to provide support and direction to any adult who has experienced child abuse. This experience may be first hand, or as a loved one of a survivor, or as a support worker for the victims of child abuse. The HAVOCA resource provides a wealth of information online and at the same time allows people to connect through The HAVOCA Survivor Forums. In doing so HAVOCA provides direction and friendship to survivors worldwide.
Together, as a survivors’ community, HAVOCA provides the medium to break the silence and help individuals recover from their trauma.
Please help us to collect child abuse statistics so that we can support our growing database that informs, educates and provides insight into the challenging world of victim care.
This is a live survey; that means questionnaires are being completed all the time. To see the latest results follow this link. Approximately 5000 questionnaires have been completed so far.
Add your label to our map, we want to show the world how many survivors are impacted by childhood abuse and show other survivors that they aren’t alone.
Find-a-therapist. HAVOCA recommends that child abuse survivors receive professional help.
Support Group. Support Groups and Organisations for child abuse survivors in your area.
Survivor Forum. There are over 3000 child abuse survivors on our forums who share and support each other.
About Us. HAVOCA has been supporting child abuse survivors since 2001!
HAVOCA’s Blog. Our Blog is aimed at child abuse survivors and those who offer them support. Each article in the blog has been specially selected, written and editted to provide the maximum amount of guidance, support and advice in the relevant area. We also have a special section for Survivor’s Letters and a Quiet Corner to show case poetry, quotes and a Survivor’s Gallery.
Please support us so that we can continue to support child abuse survivors across the globe. Your donations help us to maintain our website and continue to promote HAVOCA, making it more accessible to a wider audience.
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- Official apology for institutional child abuse in Northern Ireland to be made ‘as soon as possible’ - Belfast Telegraph
- Domestic abuse survivors 'having to pay for abusers to see children' - The Guardian
- Calls to online child sexual abuse watchdog up 45% in September - The Guardian
Reasons to Stay Alive
By Matt Haig
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FEEL TRULY ALIVE? Aged 24, Matt Haig’s world caved in. He could see no way to go on living. This is the true story of how he came through crisis, triumphed over an illness that almost destroyed him and learned to live again. A moving, funny and joyous exploration of how to live better, love better and feel more alive, Reasons to Stay Alive is more than a memoir. It is a book about making the most of your time on earth. “I wrote this book because the oldest cliches remain the truest. Time heals. The bottom of the valley never provides the clearest view. The tunnel does have light at the end of it, even if we haven’t been able to see it …Words, just sometimes, really can set you free.”
“Maybe the most important book I’ve read this year” (SIMON MAYO)
“A life-saving book” (AMANDA CRAIG)
“Warm and engaging, and shot through with humour . . . a valuable contribution to the conversation” (SUNDAY TIMES)
“Brings a difficult and sensitive subject out of the darkness and into the light” (MICHAEL PALIN)
“Full of wisdoms and warmth” (NATHAN FILER)
“A tender, candid, inspiring book about depression” (SUNDAY EXPRESS)
“Matt Haig is astounding” (STEPHEN FRY)
Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
by Shannon Thomas
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people.Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.Healing from Hidden Abuse walks the reader through each of the six recovery stages researched and developed by the author. The stages are: Despair, Education, Awakening, Boundaries, Restoration and Maintenance. A guided Personal Reflections journal is included in the back of the book to help the reader go deeper in their application of the six stages of recovery. The journal can be used individually or in a small group setting.
An incredibly insightful book – I was enthralled! This could have only been written by someone – in the know – someone who truly understands this damaged mind set, the subtle nuances and clever traps these creatures are able to (so easily)set for their prey. The confusion, spin, despair and doubt they’re able to instil………. This book offers an excellent explanation as to why otherwise happy, successful and confident people can get sucked up into a bewildering, isolating and lonely world. Most definitely worth the read – we’ll done.
I liked the easy and logical process described in this book based on research and clinical experience. It is a self help book that demystifies the characteristics surrounding abusive relationships either individual or group and how recovery is possible
Review: 4.5 out of 5