HAVOCA – Help for Adult Victims Of Child Abuse
HAVOCA is run by survivors for adult survivors of child abuse. We provide support, friendship and advice for any adult who’s life has been affected by childhood abuse.
If this is the first time you have visited this site please feel free to browse around and explore our hundreds of useful pages about the road to recovery. HAVOCA’s ethos believes that every single child abuse survivor has the ability to survive and lead a more fulfilling life.
Every Survivor has the right to become a Thriver.
HAVOCA was established in 2001 to provide support and direction to any adult who has experienced child abuse. This experience may be first hand, or as a loved one of a survivor, or as a support worker for the victims of child abuse. The HAVOCA resource provides a wealth of information online and at the same time allows people to connect through The HAVOCA Survivor Forums. In doing so HAVOCA provides direction and friendship to survivors worldwide.
Together, as a survivors’ community, HAVOCA provides the medium to break the silence and help individuals recover from their trauma.
Find-a-therapist. HAVOCA recommends that child abuse survivors receive professional help.
Support Group. Support Groups and Organisations for child abuse survivors in your area.
Survivor Forum. There are over 3000 child abuse survivors on our forums who share and support each other.
About Us. HAVOCA has been supporting child abuse survivors since 2001!
HAVOCA’s Blog. Our Blog is aimed at child abuse survivors and those who offer them support. Each article in the blog has been specially selected, written and editted to provide the maximum amount of guidance, support and advice in the relevant area. We also have a special section for Survivor’s Letters and a Quiet Corner to show case poetry, quotes and a Survivor’s Gallery.
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Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame By Beverly Engel.
“Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children’s self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more positive self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child.” –Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents
Parents act as a mirror to show a child who she or he is. Throughout childhood there will be other mirrors, but children inevitably return to the reflection in that original mirror in order to determine their goodness, importance, and self-worth. In Healing Your Emotional Self, Engel offers her highly effective Mirror Therapy program to help you reject the distorted images your parents either intentionally or unintentionally projected onto you. She explores the seven types of emotionally abusive or neglectful parents and the seven most common parental mirrors, providing specific advice and recovery strategies for each one. Helping you raise your self-esteem and improve your self-image, this innovative step-by-step program provides you with the skills you need to: Create a positive self-image separate from your abusive parents’ distorted picture Separate emotionally from your parents and provide for yourself what you missed as a child Discover who you really are– including your likes, dislikes, values, goals, and dreams– by creating a word self-portrait and using other Mirror Therapy techniques Overcome your tendency toward self-blame, self-hatred, and self-destructiveness Learn self-nurturing and set effective limits to help you control your tendency to overeat, drink too much, overspend, and/or overwork Become the person you are meant to be by being more accepting of yourself Learn to love who you see in the mirror with the breakthrough program found in Healing Your Emotional Self.