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Which
came first: the chicken or the egg? Which came first: the depression or
the pessimistic thoughts? I can't answer the first question, but the
answer to the latter may surprise you.
In
many, many cases depression actually is the result of negative thoughts.
When bad things happen, we begin chastising ourselves with such thoughts
as: "I'm no good."; "I'm a total failure."; or
"Nothing ever goes my way." These thoughts can send us spiraling
right down into a deep depression. You see, we are what we think.
This
concept is the guiding principle behind Cognitive Therapy. If we think
something often enough, we begin to believe it's true. To conquer
depression, we must stop those automatic thoughts and replace them with
more positive, truthful ones. By nipping these thoughts in the bud, we can
put a halt to depression before it even starts.
Cognitive
Therapy is directed at 10 common Cognitive Distortions, or faulty thought
patterns, that send us into depression. See if you recognize yourself in
any of these.
- All-or-Nothing
Thinking: John
recently applied for a promotion in his firm. The job went to another
employee with more experience. John wanted this job very badly and now
feels that he will never be promoted. He feels that he is a total
failure in his career.
- Overgeneralization:
Linda is very
lonely and often spends most of her time at home. People sometime
suggest that she should get out and meet people. Linda feels that that
is it useless to try to meet people. She believes that no one really
could like her.
- Mental
Filter: Mary is
having a bad day. As she drives home, a kind gentleman waves her to go
ahead of him as she merges into traffic. Later in her trip another
driver cuts her off. She grumbles to herself that there are nothing
but rude and insensitive people in her city.
- Disqualifying
the Positive: Rhonda
just had her portrait made. Her friend tells her how beautiful she
looks. Rhonda brushes aside the compliment by saying that the
photographer must have touched up the picture. She never looks that
good in real life.
- Jumping
to Conclusions: Chuck
is waiting for his date at a restaurant. She's now 20 minutes late.
Chuck laments to himself that he must have done something wrong and
now she has stood him up. Meanwhile across town, his date is stuck in
traffic.
- Magnification
and Minimization: Scott
is playing football. He bungles a play that he's been practicing for
weeks. He later scores the winning touchdown. His teammates compliment
him. He tells them he should have played better; the touchdown was
just dumb luck.
- Emotional
Reasoning: Laura
looks around her untidy house and feels overwhelmed by the prospect of
cleaning. "This is hopeless", she says to herself. "Why
should I even try?"
- Should
Statements: David
is sitting in his doctor's waiting room. His doctor is running late.
David sits stewing thinking, "With how much I'm paying him he
should be on time. He ought to have more consideration." He ends
up feeling bitter and resentful.
- Labeling
and Mislabeling: Donna
just cheated on her diet. "What a fat pig I am!", she
thinks.
- Personalization:
Jean's son is
doing poorly in school. She feels that she must be a bad mother. She
feels that it's all her fault that he isn't studying.
If
you recognize any of these behaviours in yourself, then you're halfway
there. Here's a homework assignment for you. Over the next couple of
weeks, begin to watch yourself closely for self-defeating ways that you
respond to situations. Practice recognizing your automatic responses. Then
come back here for the September 6 issue. We will take each of the above
Cognitive Distortions and discuss some powerful coping strategies that
will help you dispel the blues before they even start.
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