Do I need to forgive my abuser?
This question is always raised during the recovery process.
In my opinion the only necessity as far as healing is concerned is
forgiving yourself. Developing
compassion and forgiveness for your abuser, or for the members of
family that did not protect you, is not a required part of
the healing process. It is not something to shoot for or to aim
at. It is not the final goal.
This does not escape the fact that eventually
you will have to reach some kind of resolution, to make peace with
your past and move on, whether or not this resolution encompasses
forgiveness is a personal matter. You may never reach an
attitude of forgiveness, and that's perfectly alright.