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Do I need to forgive my abuser?

This question is always raised during the recovery process.  In my opinion the only necessity as far as healing is concerned is forgiving yourself.
  Developing compassion and forgiveness for your abuser, or for the members of family that did not protect you, is not a required part of the healing process. It is not something to shoot for or to aim at.  It is not the final goal. 

This does not escape the fact that eventually you will have to reach some kind of resolution, to make peace with your past and move on, whether or not this resolution encompasses forgiveness is a personal matter.  You may never reach an attitude of forgiveness, and that's perfectly alright.



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