Frequently Asked Questions

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The Organisation
Who runs HAVOCA?
How is HAVOCA funded?
Can I volunteer to help?

Who is an Adult Survivor of Child Abuse?

General Childhood Abuse Questions
I am under 18 and I have suffered from abuse, how can I get help?
What is abuse?
Was I abused?
I was abused as a child, what do I do now?
Am I alone?
Why must I go back and dig up the past?
Do I have to have therapy in order to heal?
I don't have many clear memories of my abuse, do I have to remember everything in order to heal?
How do I find a therapist?
Do I have to remember things I've repressed or blocked in order to heal?
How Long Does It Take to Heal?
Will I ever be normal?
I'm stuck half way on the healing journey, how do I move forward?
Will it ever end?
How do I start writing a journal?
How do I tell other people about my abuse?
Do I need to forgive my abuser?

I want to confront my abuser, how should I go about it?

What are flashbacks?
What support is available for me?
Is it ever possible to have a normal sex life again?
What should I do if I'm feeling suicidal?
Does it get any easier?

For Friends and Families of Victims
Why do many victims delay telling about their child abuse?
My partner/friend was abused, how can I help them?
My friend/partner was abused so long ago, why don't they just get over it?
What do I need to know in order to help?
What support is available for people like me who just want to help?

The answers to these commonly answered questions have been compiled by staff at HAVOCA or they have been taken from the public domain.  Answers copied from other places have been used in some instances because they represent a true indication of the answer we feel is most appropriate.

More questions will be added as necessary to cope with current demand.

Suggestions and comments are always welcome. Contact us here.


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Sexual Abuse Guide

PROUD TO BE ME is a survival guide for victims of childhood sexual abuse, written by HAVOCA and The Lantern Project. This book has been very popular and only a few remain - order now to avoid disappointment

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