I think it is very sad when someone joins a support site such as havoca and then feels a lack of support, understanding, empathy etc. if everyone of us could really check our words before responding and be sure that we are being as kind as possible then this may not happen again.
I was desperate ...

Many congratulations to Divine, very well deserved too.
Three worthy runners up and a heartwarming mention for Sid. Today is a good day xxxxxxx

Just for the record..... It's elephant with a lower case 'e'. !!!!!!!

I see your point of view but I also feel that this member of the year award gives us all a chance to think about who has meant the most to us as individuals. Surely it's a bit of fun too on a site that brings victims together. The world can feel like a very dark place at times so surely this just ...

Many many many congratulations to two heroes of havoca. Life was great when I heard from act normal , then Stephen came along and made things greater. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I love my inner child so much

I will never forgive my dad. I went to him for help and he let me down incredibly badly. The abuse was sustained over a very long period and my thought processes became totally disjointed. I am still trying to process things more than 40 years later. He was cruel in so many ways and used me as his ...

I just selected Survivor because I am far better than I have been and feel able to help others as well as myself. I have a very supportive wife and some fantastic support from friends at havoca.

I am an erratic and chaotic user of Havoca. My moods dictate the way I decide on what to do on the site. Sometimes I feel positive and so go straight to the Introductions and respond to new users with a cheerful 'hello and welcome'. My wording is different for every new user to make me seem more ...

My disclosure was my big mistake. Sorry to anyone that has already read this elsewhere on the site.
I disclosed at aged 6 and then got abused by the person I had disclosed to (my bloody dad).
My next disclosure ( in a face to face situation) was around a month ago, at aged 58.
I have hidden my ...