I have been told that I will not be able to move on until I learn to forgive the abuser.

Togger

I don't know who told you that Togs, but that's made me very angry! To suggest you NEED to forgive your abuser is preposterous!

I've said this many times but I never tire of the message. I hope ...

I don't go out of my way to cause pain to anyone, even him.
But the point is, I'm not that scared little boy anymore.
I can stand up for myself, I even spent years in very strict classes learning to do so.
He often approaches me in a pub when he is pissed and starts trying to make me feel like I did ...

I have been told that I will not be able to move on until I learn to forgive the abuser.
Why should I?????? I am never going to forgive him.. Ever. Full stop.
I couldn't give a s**t if he died tomorow, except for the fact that he is my sisters father.
The road to my happiness is understanding why it ...