I prefer to dismiss than hate or detest. The negative feelings affect my daily life, my relationships with healthy people. Forgive and say it's ok? NO! Dismiss, reject, judge and let go. YES!

I want nothing from them. Ok. Nothing but love - however that's another story!

Trish

There's a big difference between forgive and forget.

I choose to forgive enough to keep the anger from eating me alive but the rest has to come from changes on their side.

One therapist years ago had me make a list of tangible things that would measure changes. A checklist to keep on the fridge ...