I've put other - simply because the first person I 'told' was myself.
It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that what I had been through was not just 'a bit weird' or 'an odd family' or 'not straightforward' - it was abuse. Labelling it as such was incredibly frightening but very powerful. No one else suggested it to me before I came to that point myself - I think if they had I would have sternly told them to bog off & not be so ridiculous!
I just kept being drawn back to books about families, depression, lack of self esteem & self help until finally realising that they were about me. The first person I spoke the word out loud to was a counsellor - & he agreed, with that sort of look that says 'what took you so long?' you know how they do
Now it's not something I talk to everyone about, but when I do I do say it was an abusive childhood, not just 'a bit complicated' & although not everyone is comfortable with that, that's the truth, my truth.