Elise wrote:I feel ashamed of myself for saying it but I've had to vote no.
ah hey elise, no need to be ashamed of expressing how you feel. I voted no too. it's horses for courses and it is all very dependent on your place in your own journey apart from your personality.
I am the same in never having said what happened. Not properly even with c and a lot is to do with judgement, limelight, publicness...
As for the dog it isnt about who the words are to i dont think - it's them being released out of our own minds into the air.
And actually - i said something to my c ages ago about it - it is that if other people say things i can ignore, i can shut my ears off and hear but not hear. However, if i have said it, my brain has gone sent the necessary images, words etc through the sausage machine of my brain to then be verbalised out of my mouth. I cannot 'not' hear me
am the only one who i cannot ignore or can pretend to have not heard after i have spoken... simply because that is the way we are wired. in order for it to come out our mouths, it has to come through our conscience and for that, we need to accept... and that has been held back and i guess what we are learning to do at some point through c.
So dont go beating yourself that you havent said it 'even to the dog' - its more you havent said it to yourself.... yet... but you will.. I know we all will get there at some point.
Take care of you Elise and be proud to feel however you feel. I will be with you in the 'no' pile.