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Find a therapist

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One of our members has written a personal guide to counselling/therapy which can be found here.

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21 Responses to Find a therapist

  1. Avatarabdoul says:

    I am a father of 3 children and I was abuse when I was a child. However I didn’t want to talk about it. I went to see a professional last Thursday who help me by giving some advice. I want to escape to the reality by sleeping to much. I am lying to myself. I don’t want to see the problem, I am out of the reality. I want to talk to express my feeling and to empty my head about all the bad thought.
    I would to know what is the best therapy for me.
    Thank you

    • HAVOCAHAVOCA says:

      There are lots of different types of therapy. Choosing the best approach for you can be an extremely daunting task. Our section on therapy provides a quick overview of what different types of therapy are available. This may give you an idea what each different type is about and which ones seem more appropriate for your individual case.

      If you are still left confused then the easiest way to think about therapy is by looking at the three main types.

      Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)

      CBT focuses on changing incorrect/dysfunctional emotions and behaviours through goal-orientated and/or task-based work. In other words it tries to change negative thinking in order to change behavioural patterns. It follows a structured model, with techniques and concepts being presented during each session. A CBT therapist will not direct you but they will lead you through a process and show you different options for your unique case.

      CBT can be useful for

      Depression
      Anxiety disorders
      Eating disorders
      Addictions

      CBT is generally short and isn’t always concerned with the root cause but just looks at fixing the affects of any known issues.

      Psychodynamic Therapy

      This therapy focuses on the past and any conflicts that exist between the conscious and unconscious mind. Central to this approach are childhood experiencee. The therapy delves into the past, looking at recurring themes, patterns of behaviour, development and interpersonal relationships.

      This approach to therapy has a wide range of applications, for example, anxiety disorders and depression

      The therapy is much longer work and can take months/years before the client is ready to move on.

      Person-Centred Therapy

      This approach focuses on the therapeutic relationship formed between the counsellor and client with the therapist aiming to provide that person with an environment and opportunity to develop a sense of self. Devised by Carl Rogers and also called “client-centred” or “Rogerian” counselling, this is based on the assumption that an individual (client), seeking help in the resolution of a problem he (or she) is experiencing, can enter into a relationship with another individual (counsellor) who is sufficiently accepting and permissive to allow the client to freely express emotions and feelings. This will enable the client to come to terms with negative feelings, which may have caused emotional problems, and develop inner resources. The objective is for the client to become able to perceive himself as a person, with the power and freedom to change, rather than as an object.

      Person-centred therapy is a widely used in:

      Low self-esteem
      Relationship issues
      Depression
      Body-image issues

      The client generally determines when the work ends and this can be as long or as short as is necessary.

      Choosing a type

      Hopefully this gives you a brief insight and has helped you understand a little more clearly about a ‘best’ approach for you as an individual. My best advice would be to have a general consultation with a therapist who is trained in several disciplines and get them to help you to decide on a ‘best approach.’

      Having said all of that the most important aspect of therapy is having a strong relationship with your therapist. So choose someone you can work with and then decide on the approach you’d like them to take. Finally, if it doesn’t work after a few sessions either change your approach, change your therapist or change both.

      Feel free to join our forums and discuss your concerns with other survivors who have had exactly the same dilemma as you.

  2. AvatarClemon Youngblood says:

    I’m looking for a therapist. I’m an adult survivor of child abuse and I need help because those experiences are detrimentally affecting my present relationships

  3. AvatarClemon Youngblood says:

    My Postal Code is 70501

  4. AvatarDawn hudson says:

    I’m a victim of child sexual abuse and need help with my emotions I’m a mum and I need help to talk about what happened life is hard

  5. AvatarJoyce High says:

    I have been abused by my family members since I could walk…..I blocked out somethings but a long time friend of mine says that He believe we were molested by two adults at the age of 7&13 yrs old…….I have moments i can recall some details but not sure if my mind is playong tricks on me…….To make matters worse one of the guys is now babysitting my Granddaughter & is a registered sex offender but aggravated…..What advice can you give me? Im lost hurt and my family thinks im making it all up????? Help me please

    • HAVOCAHAVOCA says:

      First and foremost, a registered sex offender can not babysit children, unless there are certain conditions to his offence and why he was registered. You should seek legal help immediately.

      Secondly, recovering from abuse is a very unique journey. We would recommend seeking professional help for the long term and perhaps joining our forums in the interim. Its a good place to start and will help you plan your recovery.

  6. AvatarMrs Carol Wells says:

    Could you please send me details of some counsellors in Sheffield/Chesterfield area who specialize in helping adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse to move on?

    • HAVOCAHAVOCA says:

      Your best bet is to use our search function with your post code. That will present you with the available therapists in your area. We would recommend phoning/contacting each one and use that contact to decide if you would like to work with them. Remember, choosing a therapist is exactly that = its a choice. Your choice.

  7. AvatarJo says:

    I’m still not sure which kind of therapy suits me. Rogers or psycho dynamic. Maybe a combination of the two. I am not comfortable actually talking about my abuse but have supposedly done well with writing with an online counselor. I can’t afford much and only somewhat supported in this endeavor as long as it doesn’t require them to change their ways only mine.

  8. Avatarstrong says:

    I’m just really confused I have been strong my whole life and thought if I push these feeling down to depths of hell I would rise above it but lately they have crepted up and I’m losing some of my control.

    • Avatarlorraine sandra stewart says:

      strong – it doesnt mean your not strong, it seems to be the nature of it, it can lie dormant for some of us, buried, i’ve been told it comes up to be processed

    • AvatarAL says:

      Don’t allow a predator to define you. You define yourself and seek professional help. Don’t let another day of your precious life go by. Easier said then done but I was also abused by a family member at the age of 7. Growing up I was fortunate to have supportive and loving parents. I know they weren’t at fault, or me, to have this happen. They trusted family. I’ve never told anyone but my mind and my heart knew at a young age I didn’t ask for such maltreatment. I am a strong person and because of it I am incredibly sensitive to the pain of others who go through this. It’s frustrating and sad to see victims suffer all their lives for the terrible actions of others. I have a very special place in my heart for you and everyone who still suffers but know that I acknowledged what happened, i didn’t ask for this, I should’ve never been ashamed by it, the perpetrators should be the ones to carry that torch to hell. Please take small steps if you have to but take action. Life is too precious and too short to waste.

      • AvatarSharon says:

        I would like help but I live in Antigua. I know therapy is hard work for the therapist but with my salary it would be stifling to pay huge sums of money for a session. I would have to buy the USD. Is there any counsellor who offers contributions or how may I get on a forum to interact with other survivors? When I read the pyschological jargan it scares the hell out of me. I am afaird I will go crazy and that is the last thing I would want. Feel helpless. Especially with people who tell me to get over it. It has been a long time. Really feel ashamed and am full of resistance.this makes me think that I am an innate evil person. So many people I talked to did not hate God and was willing to forgive the perpatrator in ashort time. I have a disassociate disorder and am full of fear unimaginable.

  9. AvatarCelia Mendes says:

    Hi i had suffer sexual abuse and my daughter to from her dad my ex .
    I am trying to find a good teraphy for my daughter.

  10. AvatarMary says:

    I am wondering if my great niece has been abused. She is only 6 and has been suspended from school for behavior reasons. I don’t know what else it could be. They live in Casselberry Fl. Do you know of a therapist in the area she could see? They have no insurance. We are trying to find a reason for her behavior.

  11. AvatarWhendee says:

    I am an adult and i live in northern WI. My abuse started when i was between 7 and 8 years of age and continued until i was 19. These heinous events were perpetrated by step family members. I need help and i do not have insurance, even though i hold multiple college degrees, i find myself unable to move forward. I do not love myself and when i force myself to look in the mirror, i feel worthless. The abuse ended years ago, and all abusers are dead now, but i literally replay it in my head like flashbacks every single day of my life. Most days i feel like im nothing.

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