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Thank you so much for this site. I have just read through it and have found so much helpful material in here. I am an adult survivor who started remembering in 2005. My abuse was extensive and extreme, and even went into my adult years. I have been on my recovery journey for 9 years now, and I am at a point where I am ready, willing and able to start helping others who have gone through this horror. I have worked in Social Services for 34 years, have the skills, connections and motivation to build something like what you have built for those of us here in Canada. I have a voice and I am no longer afraid to use it. I am in the process of setting up an asca support group for the LGBT community, as well as for the Mental Health community I currently work for. I am a Peer Support worker and it is my intention to build a foundation to provide help and support for survivors, loved ones of survivors, and for education of professional, and the public. I am also working on my own website, though this is in very early stages. I found the Norma J. Morris Center for healing from child abuse very helpful and you may want to check it out if you haven’t already. My question is, may I use some of the info from your site for my efforts to give back. I hope to make connections with as many sites and organizations as possible so that together we can break the cycle of abuse.
thank you again
Thanks very much for your feedback and well done for speaking out!
I have a voice and I am no longer afraid to use it.
You are more than welcome to use any/all of our site as you deem appropriate. We are big believers in spreading the word and smashing the secrecy – if we can help do that in any way we would be happy to help.
Once you are all up and running let us now and we’ll link our networks more formally. In the meantime if you need any help or guidance give me a shout and I’ll see what I can do.
All the very best
If I was physically abused then what would be my best bet to overcome that fact?
Sadly there isn’t a generic healing process. Every abuse case brings its own unique issues and problems. We strongly recommend professional help and there is also a lot of self help strategies that can be beneficial. Please feel free to drop us an email to explore these options further.
I have been abused multiple Times by multiple people but the one that remains doing any possible action to drag me down is my mom. I’m disabled waiting to see if i qualify for ssi and have 2 kids. With that said now my kids have been getting emotionally abused by her. having to live with her has made my kids suicidal and 1 was self harming they’re 13&10y.o! it’s repeating itself but I didn’t have support, I protect my kids best I can but damage has already affected them. She has even kicked us out,we were staying in our car but she called child services on me acted innocent for about a week then started again. now my kids go to their other grandmas house on weekends and i just feel lost and dead here usually not going out my room till night to use restroom and eat. Last year I finally accepted shell never change and I told her she no longer has control over me and leave me alone, SHE WENT CRAZY kicking my room door while yelling. There’s even an empty room here but refuses to let my kids sleep in it and give me my own space so the 3 of us sleep in 1 small room. Im staying positive believing ill get housing soon but honestly I’m scared she’s cursed me to not prosper. She goes to any level with no shame.
Having had professional help in dealing with childhood physical / emotional abuse I have found it was of very little help. Your memories are forever. (Just my experience)
Sadly therapy doesn’t work for everyone. We always advise survivors to never give up on professional help – there are many different methods and styles of therapy, combine that with the differing personalities and approaches of those who administer therapy and the number of combinations of help soon multiplies. Perhaps you just haven’t found the professional help that works for you.
I agree with your sentiment; memories are forever. I would also add that memories don’t have to destroy, control or hinder your life though.
I feel theway you allow memories affect your life makes a difference.i don’t forgive my abusers but I’m ok,it happened to me. Helping others by putting myself in their shoes responding genuinely makes me feel better.like the saying if life gives you lemons..it’s been helping me heal.i still gonna try another therapist at least I’m not allowing it to make me bitter how i was for 20 years.i hope others are able to figure out a way that will help them and share their wisdom to others.
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