Inquiry report finds child sexual abuse in most major UK religions by IICSA Child sexual abuse has been found in most major UK religions, according to a new report by the Inquiry; with some found to have no child protection policies in place at all. The ‘Child protection in religious … Continue reading
Survivor Book of the Month This month’s book is specifically for male victims of abuse, although like all survivor books, don’t let the gender specification necessarily put you off. There are lessons for all genders in this book; From the Author Why I wrote this book…… When I wrote my … Continue reading
The Conflict of Loving your Abuser Written by Elizabeth Shane (survivor of CSA) For so long now I wondered what is like not to wear the heavy anchor of shame around my neck as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). I spent much of my adulthood trying to reconcile … Continue reading
Survivor Book of the Month This month’s book shifts the focus from the Survivor to the Survivor’s Loved One. It delivers the answers to some commonly asked questions; “But what about me?” “Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor’s issues?” “Will we ever make love … Continue reading
Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey. Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. The second book I offer up receives a great many accolades … Continue reading
Anger… a child abuse story by Paul (Inflicted upon a child) Anger was an emotion that caused me so much pain, The violence by my abuser came to me again, Day by day there would be many fits of rage, This was all inflicted from such a tender age, Anger … Continue reading
Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey. Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. This first book is relatively new to my library’s arsenal of … Continue reading
HAVOCA 20th Anniversary HAVOCA has now been online for nearly 20 years!! Our Trustee, Jamie Harms, started HAVOCA back in July 2001 as a way to provide support to other survivors of child abuse. Initially conceived as a portal for survivors to find services and information that didn’t alienate them, … Continue reading
Inside my head by Paul There’s a loneliness inside my head, Yet on the outside all can seem well, The sadness creeps up as I work, play and go to bed, My thoughts race, emotions run, and feelings swell, Why do I feel this way? No one seems to notice … Continue reading
Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor
The holiday season can be a terrible time for survivors of abuse. TV scenes, family gatherings and pictures of joy and happiness, plastered all over social media can be the catalyst for memories and flashbacks that haunt victims of abuse. It is understandable that survivor’s feelings are heightened during this period. As a very high proportion of abuse occurs within the family unit it is hardly surprising that times that bring families together, are the times that generate the most pain for Survivors. Continue reading
