HAVOCA

About HAVOCA

Support, Information and Guidance for adult victims of child abuse and their support networks.

Silhouette of a Songbird

The Conflict of Loving your Abuser Written by Elizabeth Shane (survivor of CSA) For so long now I wondered what is like not to wear the heavy anchor of shame around my neck as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). I spent much of my adulthood trying to reconcile … Continue reading

Survivor Book of the Month – March 21

Survivor Book of the Month This month’s book shifts the focus from the Survivor to the Survivor’s Loved One.  It delivers the answers to some commonly asked questions; “But what about me?” “Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor’s issues?” “Will we ever make love … Continue reading

Survivor Book of the Month – February 21

Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey.  Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. The second book I offer up receives a great many accolades … Continue reading

Survivor Book of the Month – January 21

Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey.  Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. This first book is relatively new to my library’s arsenal of … Continue reading

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary HAVOCA has now been online for nearly 20 years!! Our Trustee, Jamie Harms, started HAVOCA back in July 2001 as a way to provide support to other survivors of child abuse.  Initially conceived as a portal for survivors to find services and information that didn’t alienate them, … Continue reading

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

The holiday season can be a terrible time for survivors of abuse.  TV scenes, family gatherings and pictures of joy and happiness, plastered all over social media can be the catalyst for memories and flashbacks that haunt victims of abuse.  It is understandable that survivor’s feelings are heightened during this period.  As a very high proportion of abuse occurs within the family unit it is hardly surprising that times that bring families together, are the times that generate the most pain for Survivors. Continue reading

New Art Work Added

Through the Dragons Eye by Lynette Dawn Clark. A new artist has submitted her picture to our Survivors Gallery The original pen outline drawing was from a blank/monochrome page in a colouring book by a professional artist …..a mindfulness colouring book drawing, but I did A LOT of colour/blending/sketching with … Continue reading

Surviving the Game

Every now and again somebody reaches out and shares some truly inspiring work.  If you do one thing today, watch this video. <span data-mce-type=”bookmark” style=”display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;” class=”mce_SELRES_start”></span><span data-mce-type=”bookmark” style=”display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;” class=”mce_SELRES_start”></span>