Breaking down the walls

Breaking down the walls In order to protect the self, many people talk about an imaginary, impenetrable wall, that they build from the inside out. It is a very clear image of something strong and weather-able, which is designed to keep safety and calm within, and perceived threat and chaos … Continue reading

There will always be triggers

There will always be triggers It took a long time, meeting the right people and building up the correct support network, for me to feel ready enough, to start my recovery journey. I slowly began to trust and to feel safe, which lead to disclosure and many memories being unlocked. … Continue reading

Parenting – The struggle of raising children after abuse

Parenting – The struggle of raising children after abuse There is no getting away from the shame I feel for making my next statement, but having children completely and utterly messed my head up, even more than it was already. For as long as I can remember, I knew that … Continue reading

Trapped Emotion

Trapped Emotion One of the most challenging things I’ve had to deal with on my journey towards recovery, is the pain and physiological effects of the feeling of trapped emotions. I have tried to keep the lid on my box for so many years. I lived with my grandparents from … Continue reading

Phase orientated approaches to trauma

Phase orientated approaches to trauma Phase orientated approaches to trauma can help demystify the process of trauma therapy. In this vein they can help you feel as if you have some sense of knowledge, autonomy and control in the process of your therapy. There is an emphasis on the therapeutic … Continue reading

A person-centred approach in working with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse

A person-centred approach in working with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It was whilst I was in training that I first worked with a client who had experienced childhood sexual abuse (CSA). I drew upon the resources I had acquired through my training and practice – a working awareness … Continue reading

Working Therapeutically with Trauma

Working therapeutically with trauma Trauma affects many people in unique and individual ways. You may be a survivor of sexual abuse, sustained violence, sexual violence or domestic abuse. You may be a survivor of trauma through the loss of a loved one in traumatic circumstances, you may have witnessed trauma … Continue reading

Blink of an Eye

Blink of an Eye Life changes in the blink of an eye. Everything that happens affects us and becomes a part of who we are. A roller-coaster ride ensues with every turn leading us in a new direction. Dips and curves cause our hearts to race as adrenaline flows through … Continue reading

Trauma

Why Trauma Should Be Duly Diagnosed and Treated Trauma can be defined as the response to an extremely negative event. Sometimes, its effects can be immediately gleaned; at other times, symptoms can take much longer to manifest themselves. If you or a loved one has had to face a traumatic … Continue reading

EVERY PERSON HAS A STORY – Tarese’s story

EVERY PERSON HAS A STORY – Tarese’s story I just wanted to reach out and write this blog for HAVOCA. I am an adult survivor of Childhood abuse. I suffered extreme depression, I was a self-harmer, and I suffered from an eating disorder. I never thought hope was possible, I … Continue reading