Violence At Home

Violence At Home The term domestic violence is usually associated with intimate partner violence.  However, it is really a more general concept that deals with violence occurring within immediate families. The predominate focus on intimate partners as abusers rather than relatives alludes to the stigma associated with speaking up about … Continue reading

Creating A Home Environment For Peace And Healing

Creating A Home Environment For Peace And Healing After surviving abuse, having a place where you can feel at ease becomes a necessity as you work towards healing and loving yourself. For some people, going on a getaway is a must to help them feel better, while others prefer to stay … Continue reading

Back to Love

BACK TO LOVE When love first tasted the lips of being human, it started to sing, Rumi About me: I am a 57-year-old mother of 2 sons and an overjoyed grandmother of 5. I work as a Counsellor in Private Practice. I have a huge belief in the transformative power … Continue reading

Survivor Book of the Month – January 21

Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey.  Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. This first book is relatively new to my library’s arsenal of … Continue reading

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD By Pete Walker, M.A. Psychotherapy ( This paper describes a trauma typology for differentially diagnosing and treating Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This model elaborates four basic defensive structures that develop out of our instinctive Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn responses to … Continue reading

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary HAVOCA has now been online for nearly 20 years!! Our Trustee, Jamie Harms, started HAVOCA back in July 2001 as a way to provide support to other survivors of child abuse.  Initially conceived as a portal for survivors to find services and information that didn’t alienate them, … Continue reading

A New Chapter

A New Chapter How Brave Are You?   Brené Brown writes, “Owning your story and loving yourself through the process is the bravest thing you will ever do.” But the quote that is often left out is what she says after, “and further, it allows us to write a new ending.” So, … Continue reading

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

The holiday season can be a terrible time for survivors of abuse.  TV scenes, family gatherings and pictures of joy and happiness, plastered all over social media can be the catalyst for memories and flashbacks that haunt victims of abuse.  It is understandable that survivor’s feelings are heightened during this period.  As a very high proportion of abuse occurs within the family unit it is hardly surprising that times that bring families together, are the times that generate the most pain for Survivors. Continue reading

Nurturing Physical And Mental Health Are Key To Abuse Recovery

Nurturing Physical And Mental Health Are Key To Abuse Recovery Experiencing child abuse has specific effects on human health and wellbeing. Research shows, for instance, that in organizations such as the armed forces, a far higher percentage of mental health disorders (28.7%) can be attributed to past child abuse experiences (compared to … Continue reading