Finding Your Authenticity and Inner Truth

Finding Your Authenticity and Inner Truth Breaking Through the Veneer In my last blog post, A New Chapter, I discussed the necessity of discovering your true authentic self, who you are at your deepest core. Childhood sexual abuse can often complicate matters by hiding your true self behind a veneer … Continue reading

Violence At Home

Violence At Home The term domestic violence is usually associated with intimate partner violence.  However, it is really a more general concept that deals with violence occurring within immediate families. The predominate focus on intimate partners as abusers rather than relatives alludes to the stigma associated with speaking up about … Continue reading

Creating A Home Environment For Peace And Healing

Creating A Home Environment For Peace And Healing After surviving abuse, having a place where you can feel at ease becomes a necessity as you work towards healing and loving yourself. For some people, going on a getaway is a must to help them feel better, while others prefer to stay … Continue reading

Back to Love

BACK TO LOVE When love first tasted the lips of being human, it started to sing, Rumi About me: I am a 57-year-old mother of 2 sons and an overjoyed grandmother of 5. I work as a Counsellor in Private Practice. I have a huge belief in the transformative power … Continue reading

Survivor Book of the Month – January 21

Survivor Book of the Month A good self-help book can be an excellent way to kick start, continue or bolster a Survivor’s healing journey.  Every month I will bring to you a book that has helped my own recovery. This first book is relatively new to my library’s arsenal of … Continue reading

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD By Pete Walker, M.A. Psychotherapy ( This paper describes a trauma typology for differentially diagnosing and treating Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This model elaborates four basic defensive structures that develop out of our instinctive Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn responses to … Continue reading

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary

HAVOCA 20th Anniversary HAVOCA has now been online for nearly 20 years!! Our Trustee, Jamie Harms, started HAVOCA back in July 2001 as a way to provide support to other survivors of child abuse.  Initially conceived as a portal for survivors to find services and information that didn’t alienate them, … Continue reading

A New Chapter

A New Chapter How Brave Are You?   Brené Brown writes, “Owning your story and loving yourself through the process is the bravest thing you will ever do.” But the quote that is often left out is what she says after, “and further, it allows us to write a new ending.” So, … Continue reading