Part 2 – An Important Truth

Part 2 – An Important Truth What happens after these first memories or utterances come up? Little do us victims know as much as we try not to face it ourselves, the truth will eventually find its way out—often many more years later as we continue to wrestle it back … Continue reading

Part 1 – An Important Truth

An Important Truth Why do many victims of sexual abuse/assault not tell anyone or report it when it happens? Sexual assault/abuse is a darkness which – without notice – steals another person’s: Innocence, respect, core value, self-esteem, physical protection and boundaries, sexual integrity, voice, safety, security and trust. Besides what … Continue reading

Cultivating Conversations for Autonomy 

Cultivating Conversations for Autonomy  Over three decades ago, the month of April was established as National Child Abuse Prevention Month in the United States. Many other countries, including the United Kingdom, followed suit by also adopting the campaign. The month-long campaign aims to raise awareness, support families, and focuses on … Continue reading

The Cycle of Abuse

The Cycle of Abuse It is massively confusing when the pain of the abuse you are experiencing, is so immense that the need to hide and protect yourself, clashes with your default yearning to be able to love the person hurting you; this is especially the case when your abuser … Continue reading

Advice and rhetorical questions

Advice and rhetorical questions: Giving and receiving I have found, through my own experience and from reading many posts on the forum, that making the life changing choice to heal and move towards recovery, is a massively scary decision. It requires a careful and delicate balance of safety, trust and … Continue reading

Just simply a message

            Just simply a message When you feel like it’s an effort to cope When you’re standing at the top of that slippery slope Struggling to comprehend the scale and the scope Clutching at straws while clinging to hope  Don’t be afraid of the clutter … Continue reading

What are you doing to look after yourself now?

What are you doing to look after yourself now? We all need to take stock from time to time. It’s easy to get lost on the journey and sometimes we don’t even know that we may be lost. Like any process or procedure, it makes sense to rest, look backwards … Continue reading

“Suicide is Selfish” – the Myth.

“Suicide is Selfish” – the Myth. I am a survivor of suicide. It still feels strange making that statement. I went on a ‘Care of the Trainee’ course with the Royal Air Force, and no, that isn’t why I attempted suicide! During the course one of the topics for discussion … Continue reading

Consensual sex after abuse

Consensual sex after abuse I find it surprising, that sex has never really been an issue or a problem for me; you would think that following a childhood, littered with harrowing sexual abuse, that there may be some issues regarding consensual sex, as an adult. Up until a year ago, … Continue reading

Mindfulness

Mindfulness Mid way into therapy, I was finding that I was disappearing off in to my head, completely consumed with the recovery of memories, and trapped, with increasingly powerful flashbacks and no escape. Overwhelming, is such a clichéd word and over used, but it does sum up the experience (or … Continue reading