A New Chapter

A New Chapter How Brave Are You?   Brené Brown writes, “Owning your story and loving yourself through the process is the bravest thing you will ever do.” But the quote that is often left out is what she says after, “and further, it allows us to write a new ending.” So, … Continue reading

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

The holiday season can be a terrible time for survivors of abuse.  TV scenes, family gatherings and pictures of joy and happiness, plastered all over social media can be the catalyst for memories and flashbacks that haunt victims of abuse.  It is understandable that survivor’s feelings are heightened during this period.  As a very high proportion of abuse occurs within the family unit it is hardly surprising that times that bring families together, are the times that generate the most pain for Survivors. Continue reading

Songs of Healing: How Music Therapy Can Help Survivors Of Abuse Find Closure

Songs of Healing: How Music Therapy Can Help Survivors Of Abuse Find Closure Trauma survivors dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may have trouble verbally expressing their problems. A team of researchers in Finland found that patients who received music therapy showed a 50% or greater improvement in treating their symptoms … Continue reading

The Role Gaming Plays In Therapy 

The Role Gaming Plays In Therapy One of the major changes in the way we view the role games play in our lives was the study done on those who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It found that visuospatial video games interfere with flashbacks. The study divided the test … Continue reading

Moving Into The Workplace As a Survivor

Moving Into The Workplace As a Survivor And Graduate Survivors of childhood abuse will often find it difficult to secure and maintain employment. According to one study analysed by The Guardian, up to 50% of childhood abuse survivors reported this particular difficulty. As a survivor and graduate, the prospect of employment can … Continue reading

Self Care

Self Care 5 Self-Care Practices To Help You Rise Again After Abuse Up to 50% of all children will fall victim to general child abuse, which includes sexual assault, physical abuse, violence, and neglect according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The effects of such abuse are most … Continue reading

Advice and rhetorical questions

Advice and rhetorical questions: Giving and receiving I have found, through my own experience and from reading many posts on the forum, that making the life changing choice to heal and move towards recovery, is a massively scary decision. It requires a careful and delicate balance of safety, trust and … Continue reading

What are you doing to look after yourself now?

What are you doing to look after yourself now? We all need to take stock from time to time. It’s easy to get lost on the journey and sometimes we don’t even know that we may be lost. Like any process or procedure, it makes sense to rest, look backwards … Continue reading

Consensual sex after abuse

Consensual sex after abuse I find it surprising, that sex has never really been an issue or a problem for me; you would think that following a childhood, littered with harrowing sexual abuse, that there may be some issues regarding consensual sex, as an adult. Up until a year ago, … Continue reading

Safety, Trust and Control

Safety, Trust and Control I was ready to tap into my trapped emotion in order to release it, when I finally embarked into therapy. I wanted to get to a place where everyday triggers did not effect me in such a big way. I wanted to be in a place … Continue reading