Harming Your Child by Making Him Your Parent

Harming Your Child by Making Him Your Parent A very subtle way to create damage in your child is to turn that child into your parent. This process is called parentification, not to be confused with parenting. Parentification can be defined as a role reversal between parent and child. A child’s … Continue reading

The Role Gaming Plays In Therapy 

The Role Gaming Plays In Therapy One of the major changes in the way we view the role games play in our lives was the study done on those who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It found that visuospatial video games interfere with flashbacks. The study divided the test … Continue reading

Advice and rhetorical questions

Advice and rhetorical questions: Giving and receiving I have found, through my own experience and from reading many posts on the forum, that making the life changing choice to heal and move towards recovery, is a massively scary decision. It requires a careful and delicate balance of safety, trust and … Continue reading

“Suicide is Selfish” – the Myth.

“Suicide is Selfish” – the Myth. I am a survivor of suicide. It still feels strange making that statement. I went on a ‘Care of the Trainee’ course with the Royal Air Force, and no, that isn’t why I attempted suicide! During the course one of the topics for discussion … Continue reading

Consensual sex after abuse

Consensual sex after abuse I find it surprising, that sex has never really been an issue or a problem for me; you would think that following a childhood, littered with harrowing sexual abuse, that there may be some issues regarding consensual sex, as an adult. Up until a year ago, … Continue reading

Safety, Trust and Control

Safety, Trust and Control I was ready to tap into my trapped emotion in order to release it, when I finally embarked into therapy. I wanted to get to a place where everyday triggers did not effect me in such a big way. I wanted to be in a place … Continue reading

Four Healing Journey Mantras

Four Healing Journey Mantras A mantra, according to the dictionary is (originally in Hinduism and Buddhism) a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation. Mantras can be used to deal with issues by refocusing the brain and reinforcing a positive outlook on the healing process. The healing journey … Continue reading

Parenting – The struggle of raising children after abuse

Parenting – The struggle of raising children after abuse There is no getting away from the shame I feel for making my next statement, but having children completely and utterly messed my head up, even more than it was already. For as long as I can remember, I knew that … Continue reading

Trapped Emotion

Trapped Emotion One of the most challenging things I’ve had to deal with on my journey towards recovery, is the pain and physiological effects of the feeling of trapped emotions. I have tried to keep the lid on my box for so many years. I lived with my grandparents from … Continue reading

Flowing Through Emotion Pain & PTSD

Flowing Through Emotion Pain & PTSD by Amber DeAnn I disagree with common advice given to PTSD survivors to relive the scene. Some can’t do that. When you are in the midst of a traumatic attack, you can’t think through it or give yourself affirmations, or tell your body to … Continue reading