by heavenbound84 » Thu Sep 28, 2017 3:37 am
This is a tricky question because of two parts, the abuse didn't really start out as abuse but arguments between my dad and I during my preteen years. I And it eventually morphed into verbal and physical abuse toward all of us within the family from my dad. My mom really tried to work everything out, have my dad and I sit down together with her, discuss and apologize to each other. Because of that the abuse wasn't truly considered it, my mom didn't consider it, I think I really didn't know what to think of it. I just knew I didn't like it, and I knew we deserved better. I even had an opportunity my senior year of high school to report my dad but I was too scared for my mom and my siblings at that point and still cared about my dad to go through with it. It was until I went away to college my freshman year and got a glimpse of some of the decisions I was making at 18 and the reasons why - partying, drinking, sleeping around, porn, etc. - all to cope with the pain of the abuse that I didn't want it to continue and I didn't want my siblings to go through similar or worse circumstances. At 19, I had this conversation with my mom either we all leave dad or I leave and take the kids.
Fast forward 14 years later, we are all in much better situations, still have effects from it all but definitely in a better safer place.
This is a tricky question because of two parts, the abuse didn't really start out as abuse but arguments between my dad and I during my preteen years. I And it eventually morphed into verbal and physical abuse toward all of us within the family from my dad. My mom really tried to work everything out, have my dad and I sit down together with her, discuss and apologize to each other. Because of that the abuse wasn't truly considered it, my mom didn't consider it, I think I really didn't know what to think of it. I just knew I didn't like it, and I knew we deserved better. I even had an opportunity my senior year of high school to report my dad but I was too scared for my mom and my siblings at that point and still cared about my dad to go through with it. It was until I went away to college my freshman year and got a glimpse of some of the decisions I was making at 18 and the reasons why - partying, drinking, sleeping around, porn, etc. - all to cope with the pain of the abuse that I didn't want it to continue and I didn't want my siblings to go through similar or worse circumstances. At 19, I had this conversation with my mom either we all leave dad or I leave and take the kids.
Fast forward 14 years later, we are all in much better situations, still have effects from it all but definitely in a better safer place.