No is my primary answer. I've kinda forgiven the 2ndary abuser because he was under the control of the primary one and has made an effort and seemingly shown remorse since. Without directly bringing the matter up.

With the primary one I've had to survive with them in the periphery of my life, i've yet to raise it directly here too but this one has gone out of his way to repeatedly antagonize and bring me down and has shown no hint of remorse. So fuck him, i gave up on it long ago but it has continued to underline itself.

I tried to basically ignore it seeing this as least damage for some including innocent parties around and linking us before having a breakdown of sorts right on schedule quite recently. I gather this forgiveness analogy of holding onto a hot piece of coal burning only really yourself, to let it go. Well i'm not convinced it fully works so ideally like that in this sort of case. When you give a person an inch and they repeatedly keenly take liberties and really make you regret bothering at all it begs a question of why invest any hope or trust in them or interact with them in any way unless you absolutely have to? &it'd seem insincere to forgive at a fair distance and then kinda retract if they're in proximity. I'm trying to simply move on and resolve within myself. A battle is due to be coming at a suitable time but that time can't suitably be now unless i put my own selfish will above the probable health of others. Which i'm not going to do. that'd be comparably as bad an option as 'forgiving' rn.

I don't know if I have or haven't; but I think with all the pain I experience currently I can't forgive

NO NO NO NO NO and NO

No F’ing way!!!!

I was punished and isolated as a child for trying to speak out and not ‘forgiving’ = accepting and excusing their behaviour in their eyes.

There is nothing that rages me more than the view shared by my good for nothing, fake, insincere, do gooder abusers that walk through life hiding behind a mask of being morally superior in particular to the rotten to the core me that they tell the world about. That the fact that I do not forgive is further prove of my badness and wrongness. And that the problem is me. And that I am a defect human who is treated accordingly and that they are completely justified in their behaviour.

For those whom forgiving truely serves themselves as oppose to their abusers this is wonderful.

Personally, I am working towards feeling proud and not ashamed of myself for not forgiving. That day will be a very good day.

Besides, I cannot forgive someone who is not sorry.

I am unusual, in that I have forgiven, my abuser was my mother but she was being violent abused by my father, she later developed a chronic mental health disorder. So I understood in a way. But more importantly I wanted to forgive, because I know to hold onto it harms me even more.

i have forgiven my father after acknowledging his behaviour is due to his cultural upbringing, the way he was treated and the way his peers influenced him growing up. You are not a nice person for sure and I know you regret everything but still continue to make the same mistake (even to this day).
I am only forgiving you because I am mature enough to take responsibility of my life, actions and happiness as an adult. I had no control over who my parents were or how they treated me but have all the power in the world to change my life (regardless of my fathers comments about me and the constant sympathy/pity towards me). forgiving him doesn't mean he is right and forgiving him doesn't mean I want him back in my life. forgiving him for me allows me to safely place the blame and responsibility to the person who owns it, that is my father. I wont let his actions ruin my future he is just a man and although biologically connected doesn't give him permission to let others do as he says. respect, trust needs to be earned no matter whether you are blood related or an homeless.

I will never forgive my dad. I went to him for help and he let me down incredibly badly. The abuse was sustained over a very long period and my thought processes became totally disjointed. I am still trying to process things more than 40 years later. He was cruel in so many ways and used me as his plaything. He died and escaped any possibility of being brought to justice. No, I cannot forgive him at all.

I have been told by so many people that forgiveness will set me free, so if that is true then I want it more than anything. But it's so hard when I know those people will never be punished for what they did, not in this lifetime anyways. If there is a God I want him or her to be vengeful against abusers. I can't yet find it in my to understand why they did those horrible things to me. I was just a kid.

I believe I will be able to forgive them after I completely cut them out of my life and some time passes.

No and I don't think I ever could

Each time my narcissistic mother has abused me when I was child or adult it has been to do with her insisting that she use me / abuse me to meet her own needs/wants. Aswell as angering me she has often got me to feel sympathy for her. I am not sure I have forgiven her, it more that I have been forced into feeling sorry for her.

I say and act like I have forgiven and I’ve had to forgive people I loved of horrific things cause you can’t heal without forgiveness. As my counselor always said. But deep down I can’t forgive them. I was locked in rooms and starved and beat and treated worse then a dog. And then finally saved so I thought and went through the foster care system and was just a paycheck or sexually abused by foster parent or other foster kids. And there not sorry and therefore don’t deserve my forgiveness

No, I have not. I don't know how to when he not only doesn't feel sorry for it but sees nothing wrong in what he did to me. I can understand why he did what he did, because he himself was neglected as a child but that does not excuse nor forgive abusing your own family. I struggle with forgiveness and moving on because the people that have wronged are so self centered in their own universes that they don't even see nor do they care how much pain they have caused me.

I have forgiven them as much as I can. I am trying to see them as a couple of immature kids who had me when they were too young and just didn't know how to parent. However, it is hard to forgive them completely, because they have never admitted that their neglect and abuse harmed me. I do not want them back in my life because I am afraid of being hurt all over again.

I'd like to day that I've forgiven him, but I think that I haven't really acknowledged what he did to me enough to forgive. I answered "I don't know," I don't hold anger toward him, but that's not the same as forgiveness. I think I need to place blame on him first, then I can truly forgive.