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Blog Update - Suicide is Selfish

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Or is it?

Ive written this article, from the heart, in order to express my own feelings about the 'place' I ended up. In sharing, I hope others may look for the signs of depression and suicide in loved ones, friends and colleagues. I also hope people continue to talk about Mental Health issues as though they were just another 'run of the mill' ailment.

Suicide is Selfish by Jamie Harms
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Thank you Jamie, awesome words.
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Great blog xxx
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pod wrote: Thu Mar 01, 2018 8:31 pm Thank you Jamie, awesome words.
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newsupert wrote: Thu Mar 01, 2018 8:55 pm Great blog xxx
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Raw, heartfelt, eloquently written words Jamie.

Powerful too.

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Amazeballs!!! :wink:

You completely captured depression in this piece. Very honest and brave writing.

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Jamie, thank you, your blog is flipping brilliant! Very empowering! I talk about these issues almost everyday in my job and you're absolutely right, the more you say the words the more familiar/easier/comfortable they come! This should not be a taboo subject it is a very real part of life for alot of people. X
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All too often the poorly brain will see suicide as of benefit to the key loved ones whether it's the financial implications, seeing themselves as a burden with whom the loved ones will be better off, or emotionally. "They will be better off without me".

It's not the case. It's the wounded brain talking. The loved one's want you around, not just memories.

It's a great piece Jamie.
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Liz wrote: Thu Mar 01, 2018 10:54 pm Raw, heartfelt, eloquently written words Jamie.

Powerful too.

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Sunshine tan wrote: Thu Mar 01, 2018 11:08 pm Amazeballs!!! :wink:

You completely captured depression in this piece. Very honest and brave writing.

Sunshine xxxxx
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Bella28 wrote: Thu Mar 01, 2018 11:58 pm Jamie, thank you, your blog is flipping brilliant! Very empowering! I talk about these issues almost everyday in my job and you're absolutely right, the more you say the words the more familiar/easier/comfortable they come! This should not be a taboo subject it is a very real part of life for alot of people. X
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john100 wrote: Fri Mar 02, 2018 7:56 am All too often the poorly brain will see suicide as of benefit to the key loved ones whether it's the financial implications, seeing themselves as a burden with whom the loved ones will be better off, or emotionally. "They will be better off without me".

It's not the case. It's the wounded brain talking. The loved one's want you around, not just memories.

It's a great piece Jamie.
The wounded brain. I like that John, thanks.
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Good blog Jamie. I want to give another view, can I send you a blog to publish? I don’t want to derail the discussion on yours by posting here.
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(Well, not so much a different view, just a different slant)
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L-J wrote: Fri Mar 02, 2018 11:29 am (Well, not so much a different view, just a different slant)
Yes of course, all blog entries are considered. Thanks.

Or you can leave a comment on my blog.
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Thankyou so much for writing that Jamie.

I've thought a lot lately about when I was suicidal - back in my teens which I have written about, but also when my daughters were young. I saw my depression and blackness then, as me becoming evil again and as a result, as me turning into my father, and truly felt that they would be better off without me.

I can identify so much with what you have said. It's actually helped me make sense of my thoughts - thank you...
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Just stumbled on this Jamie and wow.

Thank you for sharing

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