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Out of ten, how helpful have you found therapy in dealing with your childhood abuse?

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Poll - Have you found therapy helpful?

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Have you found therapy helpful?

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I couldn't have gotten through the last 3 years without therapy!!!! They don't tell you what to do, but help you work out what you want to do each step of the way.
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Me too - without therapy I thik id still be back before I knew it was ok to be me and feel safer. Its taught me the importance of self awareness, bounderies and self care.

Work in progress though!!!!

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A resounding YES!

i wouldnt have got this far without it. To have that time/space once a week working alongside someone who knows what they're talking about though who acts as a companion rather than someone who knows it all - being able to explore all manner of things in a safe and trusting environment has been priceless. My T has for the most part been a huge financial outlay but i'd gladly make and do make sacrifices elsewhere to continue with this precious therapeutic tool.

I know it doesnt work/suit everyone but i've found it a lifeline and would be way behind in my recovery without it.

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Post by Sigma »

Oh ek

I read this and thought cripes !

But a good therapist or counsellor can help immensely. Yes counselling is starting to help. So I guess my very very reserved answer is yes

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i would say a resounding yes. I have to admit counselling is not how i thought or imagined it would be, but i know it helps me no end, a chance to talk things through and thereby see whats needed, whats hurting, whats wanted.
One of the best things i have done in the last year.
So definitely yes.
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Definetly Yes its helped clear my mind put things into perspective and given me a place to feel safe unloading memories and emotions i never knew i even had. I think i have definetly changed for the better because of counselling. I have grown and my outlook and optimism has also grown.

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To have somebody to listen - to hear me.

To validate things that I have never given credence to.

To acknowledge that things feel the way that they do

To say that it is okay - whatever it is.

To mirror thoughts, to discuss ideas, to understand.

Yes it is helpful - essential to help me to move forwards.. for so many years I have made my own decisions that things are the opposite of the above (when I actually knew they weren't) and to have someone help me to shift my stance - even if only a little - while I can re-adjust my equilibrium in order to take the next tentative step.

Luckily I have found someone who I trust - as much as I ever will anyone in this scenario - and who I click with. If I hadn't, I would imagine that it would probably do more harm than good.

So in a nusthell, yes I have found therapy helpful.

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Post by Dervish »

I've only just started in therapy - some 45yrs after I was first abused. I am only in therapy because a serious illness last year triggered flashbacks. So far - and it really is VERY early days - I can say this is one of the most difficult things I have done - painful and frightening - but I can already see that I am beginning to feel different. I trained as a mental health professional, and would never have imagined that I would be a service user, but here I am.
My initial contacts with the NHS were problematic, but the short course of counseling I received did help - even though it opened Pandora's Box. I am now working with a voluntary sector organisation, and I am overwhelmed by their kindness, understanding and by their fantastic professionalism. I have been given a clear model for monitoring my progress, and it has been made clear that I have plenty of opportunity for accessing information kept about me and for negotiating with staff about the interventions I want/need.
For the first time in my life I am beginning to think that I might have a future.
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Yes eventually. I had some therapists that hadn't got a clue. My last one was brilliant and allowed me to work and think for myself. She introduced me to "Courage to Heal" which became my bible. I went on courses to learn counselling skills and through that realised how good she was. I will be forever grateful to her. effie2
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Post by Cocopop21 »

I think this is a really difficult one to answer because my feelings about it change so much. Therapy is without a doubt the hardest thing I've ever done, but it's also the biggest non-essential financial commitment I've ever made, and I guess I wouldn't keep spending the money if I didn't feel it was helping me. When something happens, like this evening I met up with a friend who I hadn't seen in a while and she commented that I seem better than I've been in a long while, or earlier this week I found stuff that I'd written for my c a few months ago and couldn't take in, but have now discussed and feel better about... yeah, it's good. It's really good, and it's helped me a lot. But it is so bloody difficult. It's so much hard work and I often come out feeling absolutely awful. I guess it's also a positive thing that I've now developed new coping mechanisms that don't involve drinking a case of beer and chain-smoking an entire packet after a bad day, or a bad session...

So yes, it is helpful, but it's also a massive investment, financially, emotionally and in time. I wouldn't be where I am just now without it, but it's by no means an easy journey.

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