Poll - Age during abuse
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Poll - Age during abuse
How old were you while the abuse was taking place?
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From birth to 9
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This is tricky for me so I've ticked all the ages. I don't believe I have EVER had a proper relationship with my parents, I think they were both completely temperamentally incapable of BEING parents.
I wasn't sexually abused but I can clearly see that if someone had come along and given me the attention I so desperately needed it would have been a distinct possibility. As it was we moved so much as we were in the forces that I never had a chance to get a close relationship going (either a healthy or an unhealthy one).
My mum died when I was 26 without ever having told me she loved me or protected me, my dad is still alive although I refuse to see him. He simply cannot comprehend how I feel & what damage he has inflicted. He thinks my brother being an alcoholic has nothing to do with him - the poor sod has been drinking to blot out the pain since he was 12.
So I think the abusive treatment me & my sister, & especially my brother received goes on to this day.
Carrie
I wasn't sexually abused but I can clearly see that if someone had come along and given me the attention I so desperately needed it would have been a distinct possibility. As it was we moved so much as we were in the forces that I never had a chance to get a close relationship going (either a healthy or an unhealthy one).
My mum died when I was 26 without ever having told me she loved me or protected me, my dad is still alive although I refuse to see him. He simply cannot comprehend how I feel & what damage he has inflicted. He thinks my brother being an alcoholic has nothing to do with him - the poor sod has been drinking to blot out the pain since he was 12.
So I think the abusive treatment me & my sister, & especially my brother received goes on to this day.
Carrie
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.. i can kind of echo what Carrie says.
My parents are still alive but refuse to be accountable for their choices/actions
and the way those choices/actions have left their legacy.
They believe a one off sorry is all that is needed and that i should 'move on'
I have. I no longer contact them and they seem able to live without my
presence. It hurts but i am learning to live with it. I feel that they are STILL
neglecting me. So abuse time?.. birth to now in one form or another.
With love.
Miffybun x
My parents are still alive but refuse to be accountable for their choices/actions
and the way those choices/actions have left their legacy.
They believe a one off sorry is all that is needed and that i should 'move on'
I have. I no longer contact them and they seem able to live without my
presence. It hurts but i am learning to live with it. I feel that they are STILL
neglecting me. So abuse time?.. birth to now in one form or another.
With love.
Miffybun x
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from birth to now cause even now what they did is still managing to ruin my life and i dont mean that to make me sound likje a victim cause i am NOT a victim i hate that word nor am i a survivor I AM A COPER not a victim cause i refuse to be one of them not a survivor cause im existing not surviving im a coper i cope thats me me who always cope what they did is like a legacy like having a shadow that will always be with me even now to this day what they did it still affects my life i live my life terrified that one day my mum will find out my adress and then start the verbal abuse all over again i dont think i will ever really feel safe till i know shes gone from this world
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9-13 sexual and physical abuse by him!!!
All my childhood emotional and physical abuse by parents....
All my childhood emotional and physical abuse by parents....
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Tricky question
I am thinking most of us who are here had naff parents as I figure that good parents and a child who knows he/she had a good parent would tell the parent (if something was happening) and be heard etc and so I think the healing would have or could have happened long ago ? Just a thought really.
And based on that I will say birth to even now (the shame of saying that as an adult)
But yip
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I am thinking most of us who are here had naff parents as I figure that good parents and a child who knows he/she had a good parent would tell the parent (if something was happening) and be heard etc and so I think the healing would have or could have happened long ago ? Just a thought really.
And based on that I will say birth to even now (the shame of saying that as an adult)
But yip
sigma x x
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Hi Petpet wrote:where did my post go? i posted here last night.
I'm not sure. I've checked the logs and nothing has been deleted so perhaps there was a problem when you clicked submit?
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I ticked 3-10 as that is when the sexual abuse happened. The verbal and emotional abuse went on for much longer - way beyond the age of 18, so I could easily have clicked every single one and beyond.
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not necassarily. my mum is a great parent. just because i didnt tell doesnt in anyway reflect on herSigma wrote:I am thinking most of us who are here had naff parents as I figure that good parents and a child who knows he/she had a good parent would tell the parent (if something was happening)
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I wish there was an all my life tab..It still is happening in my life
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I ticked 15-16.
I am lucky I had fantastic parent, its just that I never told them, so just to make the point that not all parents are abusive.
Dizzy
I am lucky I had fantastic parent, its just that I never told them, so just to make the point that not all parents are abusive.
Dizzy
Re: Poll - Age during abuse
I was abused from age 2-18. (Physical, emotional, sexual, verbal abuse.)
Raped by stranger at age 19.
Molested by counselor at age 34.
Raped by stranger at age 19.
Molested by counselor at age 34.
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I said 11-16, because that was when the physical abuse was at its worst. The emotional abuse started way before that though and continues even now to some extent, even though I haven't seen or spoken to him in years.