Poll - Age during abuse

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I was abused from the age of 4 (i think). As for when it ended i'm not sure. Was in an abusive relationship from the age of 22 for 10 years and then raped by a ''friend' when i was 35. To this day i continue to abuse myself.

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5 Years sexually abused by group of strangers.

5-18 onwards Neglect, emotional, physical, psychological abuse by both parents.

I don't remember 0-4, so don't know anything about this period.
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I can't remember a time when i was not being abused, have generally reckoned on about 4-5 though as we moved into the area where it happened when i was that age. I remember events and things that happened by holidays, christmas's and birthdays and can remember being raped at 6 and also have memories from before that time so i think its safe to say it started for me then. I did manage to more or less stop the abuse when i was about 15-16 by never being left alone with my abuser. I never told my parents what was happening so they were unaware of what i was going through for most of my childhood.
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It was at the age of 5, tht is what I can clearly remember. May have started earlier, but although emotionally loaded I can not be sure. I was also raped 18, this is what really felt like the straw that broke the camels back. Now almost 20 years later I am trying to resolve this and be me and not only be consumed by what these men did to me. No so easy...
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I marked 13 to 17 and never told my mom.
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I was born to a disfunctional, abusive home. My mother physically, mentally and emotionally abused us from the word go. I was sexually abused by a trusted family member at about 12. I never told anyone, didn't think I'd be believed, until 15 years later. My daughter was about 5 years old, when my abuser phoned me at home. I was terrified that I'd be forced into some sort of relationship with his family and that he would abuse my daughter. I told my husband - he asked what I had done to encourage the attention . . . Now almost 15 years later, my marriage is coming to an end (his choice, not mine). If I was stronger I would have left that day! It's sad to think that I have valued myself so little that I consider this relationship to be the only security that I have had in my life, and it wouldn't be ending if I had my way.
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I may have been younger but only can think back that far .I have two small children now and that made me realise how small I actually was.
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I've put from 5 to 12 as i remember some landmark dates and locations around then. struggling for exact detail, i could only remember 1 or 2 incidents at first description recently but then a few more crept into mind. Pretty disturbed to picture what else might be suppressed & horrified to think what if much happened to me before that age. I like to think nothing really did. I don't feel or recall that it did so kinda have to leave that sealed off there. But I don't know for a fact.
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