Poll - Who was your abuser/s

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What was the relationship you had with your abuser/s (you can select more than one)

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Post by rainaswish »

The mother I listed was actually my step mother. Aditionally I considered other but stranger may capture it. She sold me to men as a child when I was about 9-13. She was a heroin addict and would drug me sometimes.
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Post by Wavingnotdrowning »

Stepfather was not on the list so I put father because I felt it more of a significant fact than clicking 'other'. As so many of us are abused by our stepfathers I think it is pretty careless to leave it off the list!
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Post by Rosie-the-Riveter »

rainaswish wrote:She sold me to men as a child when I was about 9-13. She was a heroin addict and would drug me sometimes.
Oh my gosh! That's horrible!

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I"ve thought anout posting aboit trying to find her. I tried recently. No luck. Thank you. Part of my worst memorirs.
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Father is most common I'm shocked but also relieved I'm not a freak who's father does this
I'm so sad for you all..
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Post by Sammie »

I answered this question years ago, before I remembered the worst stuff. My answer today would be different, but I can't change my original answer or add the most significant abuser in my life.
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My father was an asshole but I couldn't include him as an "abuser". It's more accurate to say he just sucked as a parent. My molester was the son of a family friend.
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Post by holdmybreath »

If you ever remake this poll I hope that perhaps you can add in Step-Father and Step-Mother into the list of answers. For me and probably for a few others a Step-parent is in no way considered family, especially an abusive one. To call them a Mother or a Father even is painful because they tarnish the name of what it truly means to be a parent.

But my answer is the same as Onde's. Was abused by my step-father and my mother was too weak to leave him which led to neglect.
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Post by Ruby red »

Step mom and then the foster care system.
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Post by Time is precious »

Selected a few

Mother
Father
Step cousin
Four boys in primary school
Three boys in high school and also a
Teacher
My ex boyfriend
And three strangers
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It was mommy-not-so-dearest. The rest were enablers, as well as victims, but she's the abuser, queen of all.
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Step father
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Post by ashridge_mack »

Wow!

Nuclear family: 49%
Extended family (inc friends): 22%
Non-family: 29%

So that means a whopping 71% of us were abused by family members/friends
And 29% by non-family

Wow.
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Post by Wynter »

There is no box for husband.

Therapist.

Church people.

They all fit in amongst the rest of mine.
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