Poll - Self Harm

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Have you ever self harmed?
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- actually able to write yes but not anymore !

Not since the 18th of September - so only 20 days - but it's the best I have managed in a long time.

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No 'onlys' Sig - tis masso achievement!

Well done to you!

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Yay Sigma!!! Drop the "only" it is a fantastic achievemnet.

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I've been able to answer yes but not not any more - it's been since the 7th September and my move into sheltered housing.
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Not for twenty years. :bounce:

The reason still haunts me. I was angry with myself because I did not have enough money to the pay the rent. I wish the small scars would go away. I think violent self harm is about rage. It's a terrible terrible anger that has nothing to do with releasing energy truth it is just a savage. And I do not believe it is my rage in a way I believe it was the rage created in me. That does not mean I do not own it I do but I do not accept it as part of my true self.

I still cry for what I did to myself I am so sorry. :cry:
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yes I do self harm , maybe not in the way others think but I constantly berate myself, Have an inner critical part that mimics my mother that is continually using emotional blackmail and nasty comments , .....I also epilate underarms and legs ....a safe but very sadistic form of self harm , I also gouge out my skin , keep scratching away , until it bleeds ..this is a safety mechanism all about control for me , If I feel as though I have no control or things are getting out of hand , then This behaviour starts up , It is comforting in that it is real pain , and if there is blood it is legitimate pain , it makes sense of the emotional pain ,....gives it a physical presence and makes it easier to comprehend than the internal invisible emotional pain , ....
None of my self harm methods are terminal or serious enough to cause others to worry , and until recently I did not realise they were self harm until i read an article on classic coping and the use of self harm techniques .
For me its stress anxiety and also related to the lack of control growing up , sad but true , and actually quite hard for me to admit ..
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Post by Liz »

I self harm too. Though i wouldnt have called it that initially.

Over eating - comfort eating. Done to provide comfort - but harming myself physically esp.

I pick my skin. Sounds revolting. So wounds scabbing over don't stand much of a chance of healing - because i'll then pick them and pick them again. And i pick the skin around my fingers - did it really badly last week and it really hurt! So my hands aren't the prettiest to look at. Or i'll pick at my feet. Sounds gross. Sometimes it is about the need to hurt myself. Have always done it so i don;'t know and i'm not sure i could ever take it to T. Hard enough writing it here.

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Since the definition of self harm is bigger I would like to include impatience. A minor medical problem has recently forced me to slow down; and I can now feel the violence in impatience.

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drinking.... I drank until i forgot... then drank again.....

so i put don't know as there's no outward scars or anything....

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Post by Rachelle »

Yes I do self harm. I used to cut myself but haven't since my daughter was born, so not for nearly 18 years now! I pick my fingers and my feet, sorry I know how gross that is. I'm mentally very cruel to myself. My therapy will be starting soon so I am hopeful these things will improve in time.
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I pick my skin because I was told my body was not normal and felt like an outcast. particularly worse when I am anxious. it is not that severe though and I can control it.
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