Choosing a Therapist

Choosing a therapist

havoca choosing a therapistTherapy is becoming more and more popular. The old stigma attached to psychologists has thankfully been lifted. Now that counselling has become sociably acceptable it is easier to find a good practitioner. HAVOCA thoroughly recommends therapy as part of your healing journey. You had no control over your abuse, but now you have control over who can give you the assistance you need.

Choosing a therapist isn’t as daunting as it first may appear.

First of all start by looking through the yellow pages under COUNSELLORS or THERAPISTS. Listed here will be all the therapists in your area that are available for consultations.

Look through the lists and choose therapists who are local to you. Look for any special qualifications they have. In particular see if they are members of or have been accredited by the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP).

There are also several online search options for you to try:


Counselling Directory

BACP Find a Therpist


Psychology Today

Practice Central

It is advisable to speak to several therapists, or alternatively contact them via email if this is possible.

If you are having trouble finding one please supply your postcode to us and we will do our best to find one for you. Find a Therapist

The sort of questions you ask the therapist will depend on your own situation but here are some good starting points. Remember to pay attention to the way the counsellor answers your questions as well as the actual factual content, you are trying to establish whether you think you can work with them or not.

  • What are your formal qualifications?
  • What certificates or licenses do you hold?
  • What type of services do you offer (individual, couples, group, family therapy etc.)
  • What are your fees? (expect to pay between £25 – £55 for an hours session)
  • When is payment expected?
  • Where are sessions held?
  • How long have you been working as a professional helper?
  • What type of issues do you work with best?
  • What type of people would you rather not work with?
  • Do you have any specialised training in the treatment of sexual abuse?
  • What is your definition of child abuse?
  • How many sexual abuse victims have you worked with?
  • What are your goals for working with child abuse categories?

Here’s a question to ask yourself;

Does the therapist seem confident, clear, respectful, and cooperative? What do you feel as you talk to them?

Give your therapist a chance, it may take several sessions before you can develop a higher level of trust within the relationship.

Another issue which you may want to consider is the sex of the counsellor. I for one could not talk intimately with a male therapist because of the way I feel about the male gender. Some people, although abused by a male, find it hard to talk openly to a female therapist because they remind them of a family member (motherly figure) who perhaps did not protect them from the abuse. At the end of the day the choice is yours, but remember you are the one in control, if at anytime you think the therapy isn’t working you are free to stop consultations and choose another therapist.

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