Surviving the Game

Every now and again somebody reaches out and shares some truly inspiring work.  If you do one thing today, watch this video. <span data-mce-type=”bookmark” style=”display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;” class=”mce_SELRES_start”></span><span data-mce-type=”bookmark” style=”display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;” class=”mce_SELRES_start”></span>

Learning to Love Oneself

Survivors of abuse do not learn self-care or self-love. What you learn instead is quite the opposite – abuse to yourself. Emotionally beating yourself up, placing unrealistic demands on yourself, being self destructive with alcohol, drugs, food, work, money, sex and love addiction. or in your choices in relationships, self-harming behaviors or attempted suicide or in feeling suicidal. One thing is clear, an inability to value yourself, nurture yourself or love yourself. Continue reading

Surviving Childhood Abuse

Surviving Childhood Abuse By December Rose Do you ever lie awake at night staring at the ceiling? Wondering why your life hasn’t turned out the way you dreamed? Why everything you get yourself involved with has to just get complicated? Do you ever just find yourself sad and distant in … Continue reading

Part 2 – An Important Truth

Part 2 – An Important Truth What happens after these first memories or utterances come up? Little do us victims know as much as we try not to face it ourselves, the truth will eventually find its way out—often many more years later as we continue to wrestle it back … Continue reading

The Cycle of Abuse

The Cycle of Abuse It is massively confusing when the pain of the abuse you are experiencing, is so immense that the need to hide and protect yourself, clashes with your default yearning to be able to love the person hurting you; this is especially the case when your abuser … Continue reading

Advice and rhetorical questions

Advice and rhetorical questions: Giving and receiving I have found, through my own experience and from reading many posts on the forum, that making the life changing choice to heal and move towards recovery, is a massively scary decision. It requires a careful and delicate balance of safety, trust and … Continue reading

What are you doing to look after yourself now?

What are you doing to look after yourself now? We all need to take stock from time to time. It’s easy to get lost on the journey and sometimes we don’t even know that we may be lost. Like any process or procedure, it makes sense to rest, look backwards … Continue reading

Mindfulness

Mindfulness Mid way into therapy, I was finding that I was disappearing off in to my head, completely consumed with the recovery of memories, and trapped, with increasingly powerful flashbacks and no escape. Overwhelming, is such a clichéd word and over used, but it does sum up the experience (or … Continue reading

Safety, Trust and Control

Safety, Trust and Control I was ready to tap into my trapped emotion in order to release it, when I finally embarked into therapy. I wanted to get to a place where everyday triggers did not effect me in such a big way. I wanted to be in a place … Continue reading

Four Healing Journey Mantras

Four Healing Journey Mantras A mantra, according to the dictionary is (originally in Hinduism and Buddhism) a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation. Mantras can be used to deal with issues by refocusing the brain and reinforcing a positive outlook on the healing process. The healing journey … Continue reading