EVERY PERSON HAS A STORY – Tarese’s story I just wanted to reach out and write this blog for HAVOCA. I am an adult survivor of Childhood abuse. I suffered extreme depression, I was a self-harmer, and I suffered from an eating disorder. I never thought hope was possible, I … Continue reading

The Effects of Childhood Abuse and the Process of Recovery

The Effects of Childhood Abuse and the Process of Recovery by Malcolm Underhill Child abuse statistics Research on child abuse in the UK reveals shocking results. An estimated 1 in 20 children have been abused; over 23,000 sexual offences against children were recorded last year (source: NSPCC and ChildLine). Childhood trauma … Continue reading

They Can’t Touch Him Now by James Williamson

They Can’t Touch Him Now by James Williamson My original concerns about writing my autobiography THEY CAN’T TOUCH HIM NOW was revealing secrets, secrets that had been locked away in my mind for so many years. I am convinced that even a truth serum would not have made me give … Continue reading

Endings and New Beginnings…..

Endings and New Beginnings….. The decision to end counselling is I think as significant as the decision to begin the process. When is enough enough? How long is a piece of string? How much counselling can a person have? How do you know when to stop? When is the past … Continue reading

Conflict in Cyberspace

Conflict in Cyberspace Have you ever noticed how conflict can get blown out of proportion online? What may begin as a small difference of opinion, or misunderstanding, becomes a major issue very quickly. Conflict can be difficult at the best of times, but what is it about online communication that … Continue reading


Disclosure I would like to be able to write that my disclosure was the best choice I had made but post disclosure I felt so out of kilter that I hadn’t found the initial relief I had always dreamt about. My therapist had been great when I did tell him … Continue reading

A Time to Heal

A Time to Heal NB – this article has been written for female survivors, however, its underlying message is applicable to both genders. Ann was everyone’s shoulder to cry on; a rescuer of anyone with a problem. Poised and impeccable in appearance, she gave not even a hint of having … Continue reading

Freedom to Fly

Freedom to Fly – Forward by Cheryl: This letter was written by John, an adult survivor of sexual abuse. I thank him for sharing his thoughts and feelings. Through sharing, we can truly learn what’s in the hearts of other survivors and hopefully learn through their experiences and learn the … Continue reading

The Legal Consequences of Speaking Out About Abuse

The Legal Consequences of Speaking Out About Abuse By Elaine P. English Acknowledging the realities of abuse is an important part of the recovery of all survivors. In many cases, this acknowledgment is made publicly. There are, however, serious legal consequences associated with public statements about acts of abuse, and … Continue reading