The Effects of Childhood Abuse and the Process of Recovery

The Effects of Childhood Abuse and the Process of Recovery by Malcolm Underhill Child abuse statistics Research on child abuse in the UK reveals shocking results. An estimated 1 in 20 children have been abused; over 23,000 sexual offences against children were recorded last year (source: NSPCC and ChildLine). Childhood trauma … Continue reading

Disclosure

Disclosure I would like to be able to write that my disclosure was the best choice I had made but post disclosure I felt so out of kilter that I hadn’t found the initial relief I had always dreamt about. My therapist had been great when I did tell him … Continue reading

Break

Break My apologies for the break in my blogs – I’ve been away on holiday. We had a lovely time relaxing and enjoying the change of scenery and routine. It reminded me though of my early days of seeing a therapist and how different it felt way back then for … Continue reading

My Journey

My Journey by Silent Voice My journey on the road to healing started way back in 2000 when I disclosed to the psychotherapist I was currently working with at that time. I hadn’t planned on saying about it in that session. I just blurted it out very awkwardly as I … Continue reading

Your Thinking Grows Up

“Unless we can hear each other singing and crying, unless we can comfort each other’s failures and cheer each other’s victories, we are missing out on the best that life has to offer. The only real action takes place on the bridge between people.” Author Unknown Your Thinking Grows Up … Continue reading

Freedom to Fly

Freedom to Fly – Forward by Cheryl: This letter was written by John, an adult survivor of sexual abuse. I thank him for sharing his thoughts and feelings. Through sharing, we can truly learn what’s in the hearts of other survivors and hopefully learn through their experiences and learn the … Continue reading

Vision of Hope

Vision of Hope – Forward by Cheryl: This letter was sent to me by Jen, regarding her sister. I thank her for coming forward and sharing her story with me. Again, I appreciate her allowing me to submit her letter and my response to Havoca. Hopefully, through our sharing, we … Continue reading

Sharing

Forward by Cheryl – Sharing: This letter was sent to me by another adult/survivor. I thank her for coming forward and sharing her story with me. It was a big step and I truly appreciate her allowing me to submit her letter and my response to Havoca. Hopefully, through our … Continue reading

Addressing a Spouse’s Fears About Parenting

Dear Dr. Gil: I saw in Moving Forward that you answer questions from husbands of survivors. I would like your opinion on the following: My wife was severely abused physically by her mother and father. Consequently, she has many fears about being hurt and she is very shy and stays … Continue reading

Trust and Guidance

From “Journey to the Heart – Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul“ by Melody Beattie Trust That Guidance Will Come Trust and act on the guidance you have now. Some parts of our lives appear like a long, paved highway. We can see exactly where to go; … Continue reading