Back to Love

BACK TO LOVE When love first tasted the lips of being human, it started to sing, Rumi About me: I am a 57-year-old mother of 2 sons and an overjoyed grandmother of 5. I work as a Counsellor in Private Practice. I have a huge belief in the transformative power … Continue reading

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD

The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD By Pete Walker, M.A. Psychotherapy (pete-walker.com) This paper describes a trauma typology for differentially diagnosing and treating Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This model elaborates four basic defensive structures that develop out of our instinctive Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn responses to … Continue reading

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

Surviving the Holiday Season as a Survivor

The holiday season can be a terrible time for survivors of abuse.  TV scenes, family gatherings and pictures of joy and happiness, plastered all over social media can be the catalyst for memories and flashbacks that haunt victims of abuse.  It is understandable that survivor’s feelings are heightened during this period.  As a very high proportion of abuse occurs within the family unit it is hardly surprising that times that bring families together, are the times that generate the most pain for Survivors. Continue reading

How Traumatic Experiences In Childhood Can Influence A Personality Test

How Traumatic Experiences In Childhood Can Influence A Personality Test 9% of adults reported that they had experienced psychological abuse in childhood in the most recent Crime Survey for England and Wales (2015/16), with a further 8% reporting experiences of domestic abuse, 7% physical abuse, and 7% sexual abuse. As survivors … Continue reading

Learning to Love Oneself

Survivors of abuse do not learn self-care or self-love. What you learn instead is quite the opposite – abuse to yourself. Emotionally beating yourself up, placing unrealistic demands on yourself, being self destructive with alcohol, drugs, food, work, money, sex and love addiction. or in your choices in relationships, self-harming behaviors or attempted suicide or in feeling suicidal. One thing is clear, an inability to value yourself, nurture yourself or love yourself. Continue reading

Anxiety In Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

Anxiety In Adult Survivors of Child Abuse: Spotting the Signs and What to Do About Them Survivors of childhood abuse experience a lot of different impediments to their continued state of well-being. Stress and anxiety are the most common long-term effects of childhood abuse, based on a study by the American Counseling … Continue reading

Surviving Childhood Abuse

Surviving Childhood Abuse By December Rose Do you ever lie awake at night staring at the ceiling? Wondering why your life hasn’t turned out the way you dreamed? Why everything you get yourself involved with has to just get complicated? Do you ever just find yourself sad and distant in … Continue reading

Moving Into The Workplace As a Survivor

Moving Into The Workplace As a Survivor And Graduate Survivors of childhood abuse will often find it difficult to secure and maintain employment. According to one study analysed by The Guardian, up to 50% of childhood abuse survivors reported this particular difficulty. As a survivor and graduate, the prospect of employment can … Continue reading

Part 3 – The Important Truth

Part 3 – The Important Truth What about false accusations? How do I know you’re telling the truth? I cannot speak much into this question about false accusations, as I have not personally met anyone who spoke of their sexual abuse/assault that I have come to believe was a falsehood. … Continue reading

Part 2 – An Important Truth

Part 2 – An Important Truth What happens after these first memories or utterances come up? Little do us victims know as much as we try not to face it ourselves, the truth will eventually find its way out—often many more years later as we continue to wrestle it back … Continue reading