Blog Update - Cycle of Abuse

[Jamie]

The Cycle of Abuse by Tanya Evans (aka Sunshine Tan)
I am aware of the life-long effects and the nature of the CYCLE OF ABUSE that sees me swing from OK and coping one minute, to overwhelmed and drowning the next. But what is the cycle of abuse? And is it possible to break it?

[Bella28]

Sunshine XXX

What a journey you are on. It's absolutely amazing that you are able to identify and understand yourself better through writing your blogs. You are more self aware and you are also helping me to become more self aware.

This one particularly reasonates with me, as I'm sure it will with alot of other people on here too!

Keep going Sunshine! You are amazing!

Bella XXX

[Sunshine tan]

Awwwwww bless you Bella.

Thank you for reading and for taking the time to post. I really appreciate the support. Xx

I always get very nervous when I press the send button, sending stuff here, to Havoca. I write, because it helps me to process. I share because I want to show that things can and do get better. Sharing also has made me much braver.

I don't proclaim to have any answers. I know I spent all my life feeling different. If just one person reads my blogs and says that it resonates....so that they don't feel so alone...so they don't feel so different....then that's incredible and exactly the reason I will continue. All the time and energy spent writing, becomes even more worth it when I log in here and read comments like that Bella. When I hear that something I have written has touched someone else.....I feel less alone too. It validates me too. I feel every so slightly less nuts.

I usually write about my experiences......but this one, was different. Taking a well known concept and adapting it to match your own reality is innovative I guess. I wasn't sure how that would be received. I have also started showing more vulnerability in my writing and that never sits well with me. I was the most nervous about this one.

So again. Thankyou Bella. Helping you to be more self aware??? Wow!!!

Sunshine xxxxxx

[FitterHappier]

Thank you for sharing this Jamie and for writing it, Sunshine Tan. Thought provoking stuff.

[Sunshine tan]

Thank you....I think smokingeisha. Is that thought provoking good or thought provoking bad?

Sunshine x

[FitterHappier]

One thought was that articles are often written for sufferers of abuse with bpd behaviours, and not from the perspective of a person with npd.

[Sunshine tan]

Hi Smokingeisha

I'm not sure I get what you mean? Can you clarify?

I can't write from the viewpoint of someone with npd because I am not suffering with npd??? I write because it helps me to process stuff for me. I share it because it helps me to be brave and because people tell me they relate. I don't write for any body else. I'm not sure if you are suggesting I have bpd behaviours??

I'm probably just being blonde.....but I don't think I understand what you said.

Sunshine xx

[FitterHappier]

It was a well-written article Sunshine tan. Just going through my own stuff right now and it's difficult to explain.

[Sunshine tan]

Awwww thank you. It was tough to write.

I understand. Take care sweet.

Big hugs

Sunshine xxxxx